In couples therapy I will encourage you to listen patiently to your partners experienceand to articulate and take ownership of your own experience, moving away from blame. The aim is for you
to communicate more openly and fully
to hear and understand each other in a fresh way
to understand what your patterns of communication are that get in the way of this
to gain increasing respect for both your own and your partner’s dignity and autonomy but also
to become aware of the impact of your actions on your partner
to understand what changes are possible, how these changes can be realised and what is not possible within the relationship