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Emotionally abusive relationships

Arguments in which people occasionally say hurtful things to one another are a normal part of many relationships. Psychological abuse is something different. It’s a pattern of coercive or controlling behaviour which can include some of the following…

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Don't call yourself names

I've nearly finished reading a fantastic book called Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari. One of the things that he argues is that, contrary to what we might think, we don't have a core essence that we know more intimately than anyone else does. We believe…

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Why not to compare yourself with others

One of the problems with comparing ourselves to others is that we experience other people in a very different way from ourselves.

When we look at other people, we get a snapshot of them and feel that we can say something definitive about them.…

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A new way of working with mental illness: the open dialogue approach

I started an amazing new training course last week in a way of working called Open Dialogue. I first heard about the approach about a year ago and as soon as I went on the introductory day I felt inspired.

Open Dialogue is a way of working…

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Anxiety and depression: mental illness or human distress?

The longer I work as a therapist, the more convinced I am that seeing psychological pain as a mental disorder makes things worse rather than better. Yet discussions about serious unhappiness now almost always take place within a mental health framework. …

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